Suicidal ideations affect millions of people around the world, claiming over 700,000 lives every year.1
While talking about suicide is never easy, whether you’re dealing with ideations or notice a loved one struggling, talking can make all the difference.
Discussing those feelings and thoughts can provide an outlet, potentially helping steer those struggling from taking their own lives.
If you notice a loved one struggling with suicidal thoughts, it’s important to be there for them, but equally important to go about it in the right way.
Here’s how to approach those conversations in a meaningful and empathetic way.
Key Points
- Key Points
- Talking about suicide can help reduce suicide ideation
- People who talk about suicide are not just seeking attention
- Suicide is preventable, and you can do something to help
- Talk therapy and medications can also reduce the risk of suicide
Warning Signs of Suicidal Thoughts
Before we get into how to talk about suicide, it’s important to know when it’s the right time to start this conversation.
You may begin to notice various warning signs, such as certain behaviors, comments, or mood swings.
These changes can signify an internal struggle and let you know that it’s time to reach out a helping hand.
Here are a few examples of behaviors to watch for:
- Behavioral Red Flags:
- Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities they once enjoyed
- Giving away valued possessions without explanation
- Engaging in risky or self-destructive behaviors
- Comments or Statements:
- Talking about feeling hopeless or like a burden.
- Saying things like, “I wish I weren’t here” or “People would be better off without me.”
- Mentioning wanting to “end the pain” or “escape.”
- Mood Changes:
- Sudden mood swings, from deep sadness to unexpected calmness
- Increased irritability, anger, or frustration
- Persistent feelings of emptiness or numbness
By knowing what to look for, you can approach the situation with greater sensitivity and offer support when it’s most needed.
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5 Essential Tips for Talking About Suicide
Talking about suicide can be one of the most important things you do for someone who is struggling, but where do you start?
Not knowing what to say or even how to bring it up can feel overwhelming.
By offering your support and giving someone space to share their pain, you could be throwing them a lifeline, helping them find the strength to reach out for help.
Below are some tips to help guide you when talking about suicide.
1. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
Although talking about suicide may be difficult for you, remember how much harder it can be for the person experiencing these thoughts.
By starting the conversation, you’re offering them a chance to share what they’re going through, which can make a huge difference in guiding them toward the help they need.
If you’re not sure how to talk about suicide, here are a few ways to help you start:
- “I’ve noticed you’ve been struggling lately. Are you okay?”
- “It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed. Have you been thinking about harming yourself?”
- “I care about you and want to help. Are you having thoughts of suicide?”
Remember that talking about suicide with someone doesn’t increase the risk—it actually gives them an opportunity to share their feelings.
By asking these questions, you’re creating a safe, judgment-free space where they can open up about what they’re going through.
2. Be There for Them
Being there for someone struggling with suicidal thoughts doesn’t require much—sometimes, simply sitting with them or offering a listening ear can make all the difference.
You don’t need to have all the answers.
Just being willing to have these tough conversations, even if it’s just to listen, shows them how much you care.
So, lend a listening ear, encourage them to open up, and remind them they don’t have to face this alone.
3. Help Them Connect with Support
When someone is struggling with thoughts of suicide, helping them find the support they need can truly make all the difference.
In moments like this, they may feel so emotionally and mentally drained that even talking about what they’re going through seems impossible.
Trying to figure out things like who to turn to or where to go for professional help can feel very overwhelming to someone who’s already carrying so much.
So what can YOU do?
Here are a few ways you can help guide them:
- Listen without judgment
- Offer reassurance
- Help them find resources
- Stay by their side
Remember, your role isn’t to fix the problem but rather to support them as they look for professional help.
Sometimes, simply walking beside them is enough to give them the strength to take the next step.
4. Reduce the Negative Stigma
Creating a safe space where your loved one feels comfortable sharing their feelings is important.
Talking about suicide can feel uncomfortable, but the more open we are about it, the less power the stigma holds.
By simply reassuring them that they don’t have to hide their struggles anymore, the walls around them start to fall, the darkness fades, and they can finally see the light ahead.
5. Starting Conversation and Setting Healthy Boundaries
Setting boundaries with a loved one can be hard, but it allows you to support them in the best way possible while also taking care of your well-being.
Start by letting them know you need to set some boundaries to protect your mental health as well as theirs.
By now, you’re probably wondering, “That sounds great, but how do I do that without offending or hurting them?”
You’re right; letting your loved one know you need space can be tough, especially because many people tend to take asking for space as pulling away or feeling like they’re too much to handle.
To ease that, try saying something like:
“This is really about you, not me, and I want to keep it that way. But sometimes, I just need a little space to clear my head so I can be there for you fully. Taking a moment helps me stay balanced because I never want my stress to accidentally add to what you’re going through.”
This way, you take care of your mental health while also reassuring them you care and that you don’t believe them to be a burden.2
Quick Tip: Resources for Immediate Help
If you or someone you know is in crisis, immediate help is available. You can reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text “HELLO” to 741741 for 24/7 confidential support from the Crisis Text Line. In cases of emergency, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room for immediate assistance.
Addressing Common Misconceptions About Suicide
There are many myths surrounding suicide that prevent people from having open conversations about it.
These misconceptions can lead to misunderstandings, fear, and silence, all of which can increase the risk of suicide rather than prevent it.
It’s important to break down these myths to foster a better understanding and provide the right support.
Below is a list of common myths about suicide and the facts that dispel them:
| Myth | Fact |
|---|---|
| Talking about suicide will make someone consider it. | Talking about suicide can provide relief and allow someone to seek help. |
| Only people with mental disorders consider suicide. | Suicidal thoughts can affect anyone, regardless of mental health status. |
| People who talk about suicide won’t really do it. | People who talk about suicide may be reaching out for help and are at risk. |
| Once someone is suicidal, they’ll always feel that way. | Suicidal feelings can be temporary, and treatment can help. |
| Suicide happens without warning. | Most suicidal people give warning signs about their intent. |
| There’s nothing you can do to stop someone from suicide. | Recognizing the signs and offering support can make a difference. |
In understanding the truth, we can create a more compassionate and informed approach to help those who may be struggling.
Debunking these myths can dispel common worries about talking about suicide, allowing us to engage in more meaningful and supportive conversations about suicide.3
What, Why, and How Talk Therapy Helps with Suicide Prevention
Talk therapy provides a safe space to explore emotions and develop coping strategies.
It helps identify triggers, reframe negative thoughts, and access professional support.
Whether in-person or virtual, therapy can be a key step in finding healing and support.
Why is Talk Therapy Helpful?
It helps you better understand your emotions and equips you with tools to cope with difficult situations, including suicidal thoughts, by:
- Identifying triggers for suicidal thoughts
- Reframing negative thinking patterns
- Teaching healthier coping strategies
- Providing emotional support and guidance through CBT
How Can You Access Talk Therapy?
- In-Person: Find a local therapist for an onsite visit.
- Virtual Therapy: Connect with licensed professionals via video calls to access the care you need from home.
- Other Talk Therapy Resources: Options like online platforms, support groups, and helplines connect you with professionals specializing in suicide prevention.
As you can see, there are various methods to choose from to ensure you get the support that best fits your needs.4
Frequently Asked Questions
Does talking about suicide increase the risk of someone attempting it?
How do I start a conversation with someone who may be suicidal?
Is therapy effective in preventing suicide?
Can virtual therapy help with suicidal thoughts?
Absolutely. Virtual therapy provides the same benefits as in-person sessions and offers greater convenience for those uncomfortable with face-to-face appointments. It ensures those with mobility issues or busy schedules still have access to mental health support.
How can I find mental health support for myself or a loved one?
You can find support through mental health professionals, local community services, or programs like Cornerstone’s Virtual Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP). We offer personalized care and free insurance verification to help make treatment more accessible and affordable.
Taking Action to Prevent Suicide
Supporting someone through thoughts of suicide isn’t easy, but simply being there can make all the difference.
At Cornerstone Healing Center, we know how important it is for you and your loved one to feel supported on this journey.
We offer a range of services, including our Virtual Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP), which is designed to guide you both through this challenging time with compassion and understanding.
Remember, taking care of yourself is just as essential—by doing so, you’re better able to offer the support your loved one needs.
Reaching out is the first step, and together, healing is possible.
